When You’re Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired

Struggle is inevitable.  The thought resonates with my very core.  As crazy as it may sound, the thought actually calms me as I listen to one of my favorite YouTubers on my way to work.

On the surface, one may think quite the opposite.  One may assume that struggle produces strife.  Strife produces stress, and stress certainly does not produce calm.  So how in the world can the thought that struggle is inevitable produce calm?

Yet, this weekend as I prepped boxes for the kids to go back to school, tried to find the bottom of the laundry basket, and spent over an hour scrubbing toothpaste from cabinets, counters, walls, and doors, I stopped being tired.  I was tired of being tired.  I was sick and tired of being sick and tired.  I wondered if in the future, we may be able to afford a house cleaner to come 2-4 times a month as I vacuumed bedrooms and hallways for the first time in over a month, but at the end of each segment of time, I found new energy…not because all of a sudden my house was beautiful enough for social media but because I accepted that the struggle is quite real.

I accepted that some days I will have renewed energy and unending patience, and other days I will scream because I am at the end of a less than short fuse.  I accepted that life is a work in progress and all works in progress are just adventures waiting to happen one moment at a time.  Some of those adventures are full of moments when I wish that time would stand still.  Others I would prefer to wish away.  I thought of Jack from one of my favorite shows This is Us.  He said, “You’re gonna find your balance…And then you’re gonna lose it, and then you’re gonna find it again.  That’s the ride” (Source).  That is the adventure.

“Adventure isn’t hanging on a rope off the side of a mountain.  Adventure is an attitude that we must apply to the day to day obstacles in life.” ~ John Amatt

I started this blog because I was searching for balance in chaos.  I was sick and tired of being sick and tired, and I felt like there were others out there who were also sick and tired of being sick and tired.  I just needed to find them.  I just needed to find my way.  So here I am three years later, still just as lost as ever.

As I discuss my current situation with my Best Friend, I tell Him that I am still on here talking in the same circles, about the same things, more confused than ever.  I tell Him that people have got to be sick and tired of hearing about me being sick and tired.

He smiles down and asks, “But are you growing?”

It is now my turn to smile.  I think of all the cute spaces I created.  I think of the to-do list that I finally made work after over 20 years of disaster and disorganization.  I think of all the areas I have decluttered.  I think of time I have learned to chunk.  I think of all the Pinterest photos I have created, projects gone right.  But most of all, I think of all the memories I have made along the way – with my children, with my husband, with my friends, with my family.  Some of my fondest memories are a direct result of my greatest tragedies.

Some of my fondest memories came as a result of my greatest tragedies.

So I will end with advice from me to you, but mostly from me to me, when you’re sick and tired of being sick and tired, remember that struggle is inevitable.  Life is not about balance.  Life is about adventure.  If we could all learn to embrace that struggle WILL happen and stop trying to avoid it at all costs, if we could just trust our Best Friend to do His job, then perhaps we could sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride.

“Fill your life with adventures, not things.  Have stories to tell not stuff to show.” (Source)


What are some ways that you get through being sick and tired of being sick and tired?

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36 thoughts on “When You’re Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired

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  1. Girl, you sure know how to bless a sister. Thank you for the shout-out, Brittany. And I hear you about the sick and tired thing. I admit there are times I feel stuck talking about the same struggles over and over. But God never gets weary with me and that’s the grace I’m holding on to today — and now passing on to you!
    Blessings, my friend.

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  2. Thank you again for speaking from your heart directly to mine. I have to remind myself often that the struggle is real, but so is God. So I turn my attitude about having so much to do to an attitude of gratitude for having such a full life.

    And thank you again for all your live and support. We both are growing one post at a time 😘

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  3. I think when we are to the point of being sick and tired we have arrived in a way. We are on our way to learning God’s rest, seeking His wisdom instead of our own ways that aren’t working. There are days I truly wonder if I ever will have a matching pair of socks? I am just grateful for a washer and dryer. I know He said we would have troubles but He is the vine and we are branches, grapes just hang in there and grow and so should we.Thanks, Brittany.

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    1. Pahahaha! I love it. I’ve actually stopped looking for matching socks for me. The children get matching socks only because the school uniform requires them. Otherwise, we get socks that are the same size. The design match is optional. What a fun example!!! Love this 💕 Yes, all we have to do is hang on and grow. Beautiful just beautiful.


        1. That would be wise, but I have designs…like I’ll put a navy sock with white stars on one foot with a gray socks with pink, green, and yellow stripes on the other. 🤣🤣🤣 Everything goes on my house…an ankle sock is an ankle sock.


  4. Oh, how I can relate, Brittany! I love this line: I accepted that life is a work in progress and all works in progress are just adventures waiting to happen one moment at a time. . . . Amen and amen! Thanks for keeping it real! It’s so good to know we’re not alone in our struggles!

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  5. You are so right, Brittany! I feel the same way about struggles and the ups and downs of life. I don’t necessarily love them but I feel as if they are gifts that God uses to carve me more into His image. I’m hoping that I’m growing too, like you! Love that quote from This is Us too! I’ve pinned this, my friend!

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  6. Finding your balance, losing it, then finding it again. I love that! It’s so true; there are those moments when I feel like I’ve got control, but then before I know it, things fall apart again. But they are never out of God’s control. I need to just enjoy the ride, and quit stressing about my lack of control. Love the way you remind us of that. 🙂

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    1. I remind myself constantly Joan. I like to know what’s going on, where we are going, how we are getting there so to just sit back and watch God work is a constant battle for me. But the more I acknowledge His control and that life will get crazy, the easier it has been for me to really appreciate all of life for what it is…not just when things are in complete balance.


  7. Loved this statement and needed it! “when you’re sick and tired of being sick and tired, remember that struggle is inevitable. Life is not about balance. Life is about adventure.” I think we buy into the idea that if you are doing what you should be doing it won’t be a struggle and that’s just not true. Great post!

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    1. Oh my goodness! Yes. Say it again for the people in the back (mostly me). I feel like if I’m following God, why are things not coming together the way I see them in my mind? And yes God will make things come together, but He also offers peace in the meantime because true balance doesn’t hinge on things coming together.


  8. Ordinarilyextraordinary, the mom struggle is real. I’ve been looking for the illusive “balance” for years. I’m always telling myself, “After this happens or after that happens, things will be balanced.” I’m looking forward to the fall when our schedule starts back up so life will be balanced. Thanks for reminding me it’s not true. You’d think after all this time, I’d have learned to just enjoy the ride. I haven’t. Thanks for the reminder.

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    1. I’m just the opposite Sheila. When the fall come, I’m all out of whack after my leisure summer hours. And every year, I feel like I should be more balanced. But God has been tearing away at layers of struggle and instilling nuggets of wisdom and relief. He doesn’t want me to live “after this happens.” (talking to me not lecturing you). I definitely know and understand the feeling 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽


  9. What a treat to visit here today! Your words resonate with more than just me, and I’m encouraged. The struggle is inevitable, but God can bring great blessing, transformation and growth through our simply continuing to step forward and trust. Blessings, Crystal

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