So You Big Chopped…Now What?

So you finally got up the nerve to do the big chop? You loved for a total of 5 – 15 days and now you’re over it!!

Been there. Done that. Now what?

What to do when the newness of your big chop wears off

For me personally, I tried it all. I did wash-n-gos. I did accessories. I pinned the front up a bit (as much as the front can be pinned with a big chop). I threw in a twist or two – switched my part from the side, to the middle, to none at all.

Then I was out of options. I YouTubed. I googled. I Pinterested. (The red underline in my draft is telling me that Pinterest is not a verb, but as an avid Pinterester, I disagree. If YouTubed is a word, then Pinterested is definitely a word.) All of this to say, I ran out of styles.

My big chop quickly lost its luster. Sound familiar?

Perfect. I’VE GOT SOLUTIONS all learned from firsthand experience.

1. Never stop learning.

There is so much information out there. There are thousands of YouTubers out there. Thousands of Instagrammers. Thousands of bloggers, hairdressers, product lines. Even better than that, there are thousands of people rocking their natural tresses. Some of them have similar textures and journeys to you. Some of them are at the same point you are. You can learn together. You can grow together. Others are much further along. You can absorb all that they have to say like a sponge.

Here is a list of some of my favorites:

Favorite Instagrammer: brosiaaa

Find someone successfully maneuvering through their hair journey and follow their lead

Favorite YouTuber: TBD (I watch SO MANY depending on what I am looking for or none at all for weeks at a time depending on my mood.)

Favorite hairdresser: Baby Bangz

Wash and Go | Big Chop | Natural Hairstyles

Favorite product line: The Love of People

Black Tea | Hair Products | Natural Hair Growth | Natural Hair Journey
Love Potion Hair Tea set to hit the market in the near future courtesy of the love of people

2. Keep trying new things.

Quite early on, I wrote a piece called 5 Ways to Sassy Your Short Hair. A year later, and I am still learning. I was a wash and go girl for the longest because that is what my hairdresser showed me how to do when I did my big chop. I tried a twist out one time when I called myself transitioning – epic fail. As such, I avoided twist outs. Imagine my shock after my first round of feed-in braids which left my hair stretched, wavy, and soft. I thought to myself, “people do this all this time.” So I gave twist outs another go, and now I love the style as much as the next person. Next stop for me – bantu knots. I am still a little nervous about that plunge so I have avoided it for over a year now. Either way, keep finding what works for you. Continue to discover the beauty of your hair.

3. Protective styles 101 – aka weaves, braids, and faux locs.

In my mind, I was a traitor to my curls when I traded them in for feeds ins, box braids and locs. I felt like I had somehow stabbed my natural hair community in the back by not wearing my all natural all the time. I was wrong. (There you have it in writing.) My hair needed a break. I needed a break. And even with all the lessons I learned with my big chop, shoulder length hair is still my favorite.

(Favorite protective styler: braidsbybricherise)

Faux Locs | Protect Styles | African American Hair | Natural Hair Care

A big chop is a big adjustment. We all pretend that we love it every day. We smile as people compliment us. We tell everyone it is one of the best decisions we ever made. We encourage those trying to make that same big step, but then we get stuck. A year of the same 4c fro is a bit much for those of us used to the freedom of multiple styles.

And that is OKAY. Natural hair is a journey not a destination. Healthy hair is an ongoing process not an end goal. Your big chop is a small piece of a much bigger picture.

It is only a piece of you. It does not define you. So whatever you decide to do with the “now what?”, whether you twist it up, fro it out, color it, or add a lite extra, is solely up to you.

Just make sure that your “now what?”, your journey, your process, you bigger picture is worth seeing.

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What are some things you do during the “now what?” phase?

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So You Big Chopped - Now What?

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  1. I like your hair chop…I’ve done that a handful of times, and always just chant the motto, “It’s only hair. It’ll grow back” after the glory of the first few weeks is gone lol Just smile – it is a gorgeous smile, and your new hairdo will nicely frame your lovely smile 😘

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  2. Great post! I presently have micro braids and I’m trying to figure out what to do next. Getting tired of braids but have no imagination!!. Love the big curls on you…looks great!!

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  3. Interesting to read all about your adventures on your hair. Mind is straight and short not many thing to do now as I have to be tinting to cover my greys! But I do keep it well cut and do experiment with new colours to add a little bit of excitement that help change my life style. Hope all of you are going good. Sending Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies and May God Bless You All 🙂 ❤

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  4. I had never even heard the term “big chop” and have now been enlightened! lol Thank you for the edu-ma-cation! 🙂
    You have a beautiful face, Brittany. You can do all kinds of things with your hair; my take would be, just don’t cover your beautiful face with it. 🙂

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  5. Ahhhh…hair. I’ve done the BIG, GIGANTIC chop twice. People are still shocked that I cut my down-my-back locs clean off. The first time I did the big chop I had someone else deal with my hair, but that was before child and private school. 😀 Now, I try to deal with the hair myself and it’s not so pleasant. YouTube is helpful to a degree, but I just don’t have the hands (or maybe, it’s “arm” patience) for many of the cute styles. I’m 2 years in…I either twist, twist-out, or afro-puff. Once, I used sponge rollers and curled the front (bang), it came out so beautifully that I made a commitment to roll my whole head, but ugh! I start thinking about my arms being up that long, all the combing out, blah, blah, blah. So, now, I’m trying to decide whether to keep it short, short (TWA) or loc again. I need low maintenance. I’m sure I wouldn’t have survived my son’s early childhood if I had to deal with my hair every day. I thought I could now that he’s older, but eh…I’m older too, and I just don’t have the time cute hair requires.

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    1. 🤣🤣🤣 I think we all have our levels of patience. Even as I do my twist outs, I think, how long will I have the patience/time to do this every night for maintenance? This whole hair thing is a never ending learning process for me. I am learning bit by bit what I like best.

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  6. Oh my goodness! I have natural curly hair that drives me crazy and today I colored it and for some odd reason it came out dark and not my usual auburn. Imagine that when I looked in the mirror. I have had short hair as an adult because my hair grows out, but now down! I would love to try a new style, but I’m too impatient to do a new style. I love your hair and it looks great on you. I agree I have to do more youtubing and get some ideas. You have encouraged me to get out of my rut!

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    1. So glad I could encourage you. We all could use encouraging when we get in a rut. I do not have nearly as much patience as I would like when it comes to my hair. Much of my perseverance comes as a result of having no other options. I can go around with my hair looking a hot mess or I can keep trying something until I find what I like for me. LOLOL

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  7. I love your BIG CHOP! I happened to color my natural curly hair today that has a mind of it’s own and today instead of my normal auburn color it turned to jet black. That was a shocker when I looked in the mirror! Some days it wants to curl right other days the left and other days it just wants to be bushy! I have had short hair pretty much all my adult life because it drives me crazy! The times I have tried to grow it long it grows out, but not long. It looks ridonkulous (yep, I have my words too) and I get frustrated and chop it off again. Then it gets long and then I look like Elvis with sideburns. I need to get youtubing and find an alternative and you have inspired me!

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    1. That is so sweet of you to say! I think we all go through phases with our hair where one day it is perfect and the next day it is out of control. I always feel like I am one step behind the curve ball. So glad to have inspired you. Keep me posted if you find anything new that you try out and love!

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  8. I think your hair is beautiful and so are you! I recently chopped off my hair and it’s not growing back very fast. I’ve struggled with getting used to the in between stage but I feel God is using it to teach me contentment! There’s always a lesson to be learned in the struggle!

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