Momming 101 – When Getting it Right Goes Wrong

When we begin to question ourselves, God is constantly there whispering encouragement in our ears.

My house was finally clean. The office space was finally cute. The schedule was finally clear. The pictures had finally #nailedit. I finally had a manageable to-do list. I was finally killing it with my devotion streak on my Bible app. Life finally matched the picture in my mind of how it was supposed to be.

Then I fooled around and mentioned to God that we could really use a little more money, told Him I would really like to make sure I was truly present with my children and my husband, asked if He could possible spare some time in His schedule to make my blog a booming success which then wraps us back around to request number one. I ended with the fact that I would really like to make sure that I am not screwing up my kids so whatever Word He needed to get to me, could He carve out some Him and me time so that I could really hear it?


Then, boom! Just like that, life is out of whack. I am grabbing broken pieces of my clean house and skeleton to-dos. My picture perfect is disintegrating right before my eyes. I am currently hanging on by a prayer because every other spare second is completely booked. I am trying to figure out exactly how less than two months ago my life was completely un-busy and I was at work, and now I am home and every second is scheduled. How do people do all these fun things with their children and their husband while simultaneously making cute, creative house spaces, building their blogs and social media presences, and staying completely in-tune with their carved out me-time and God-and-me time?

As it is, I have 20 minutes before my next scheduled meeting, a cake to pick up after that, a room to rearrange, a balloon to buy and blow up for a party I cannot afford but I just have for my son because he asks for very little…and he has had only one true birthday party ever…

To add insult to injury, I read this blog that basically says that what others think of you does not matter all that much. What do your children say about you? What does your husband say about you? Do they think you are a good person? Would they use the words nice or friendly to describe you?

So I go back to God and ask why He wants me to keep leading children…I teach children. I coach children. Then I come home and I raise children. As icing on the cake, He gives me an extra child completely different than anyone inside of my home with his own challenges … a perfect addition to the chaos that was once balance.

Kids photography. Sibling photography. Child Photography. Children Photography.

I revert to my, “God, I am not sure I’m the person for the job. I do not know if I can run a blog, and run a home, and run a classroom, and run a team, and run the finances. I thought I was okay, but I kinda feel like I am about to drown.”

His response, “You lack nothing. Use what I gave you.”

Then He directs me to 2 Kings 4. (You can read the long version here.). For the abbreviated version, it is a story of a widow who was about to lose all that she had for a debt that was not even hers. She approached Elisha, and He asked what she had.

What did she have?

Her first answer was, “nothing.”  She had nothing at all.

BUT she continued “a small jar of olive oil.”

Elisha proceeded to tell her to go and borrow as many EMPTY jars as she could from her neighbors and bring them to her house. Once she had as many as she could find (he specified not just a few), she should pour oil into ALL OF THEM.

Long story short. She poured her little and it filled ALL THE JARS. Elisha then told her to sell enough oil to pay off her debts and live on the rest.


God comes back to me as I conclude the passage.

He ignores the list I rattled off about all the things I am not and asks, “What do you have? Are you going to look Me in the eye and tell Me that I did not give you any gifts…not even one…?”

I drop my head in embarrassment.

He continues. “I just need you to pour. I will fill the jars.”

So for all the moms on the wrong side of “getting it right,” remember you lack nothing. You were created for the task at hand. The task at hand is who you are. The task at hand is why you are here. Take your prayers and petitions to God.* Then take whatever little you have…and POUR.

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What are some things that God has been asking you to do, and you feel like you are not fit for the job?

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I wrote this blog as part of a quote challenge.  This is my Quote Challenge Day 1.

The rules are pretty simple:

  1. Thank the person who nominates you
  2. Post one quote per day for 3 consecutive days
  3. Nominate three new bloggers each day

I would like to thank Chandra Lynn for nominating me.  This will truly force me a little out of my once a week post comfort zone that God has wooing me out of over the last few months but I have politely ignored Him.

I’d like to nominate the following bloggers.  Whether they accept or not, I believe each of them has an amazing format and people should definitely see it.

  1.  Sarah Warsi
  2.  Planted by Living Water
  3.  Shinavy Blogs

Motherhood is not about getting it right or wrong. Motherhood is about finding your gift and using it.

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40 thoughts on “Momming 101 – When Getting it Right Goes Wrong

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  1. We can definitely learn a lot from each other. In one way or another, we are “parents” to each other. 🙂 God equips us with life affirming blessings to give to others. We don’t always get things right, but we keep trying, with His help. 🙂

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  2. Thanks so much for the nomination, darlin’!
    Love your post!
    A few notes: you are not other people, and you’re not supposed to be them. God has given you the job for you. I don’t know how you do what you do! You are amazing! But I am not you, and I’m not supposed to be, so I’ll do what He gives me to do each day. Also, if we’re succeeding very well for very long, chances are good that, either God is graciously pouring out as a gift, or we are limiting what we do so we will be able to accomplish it in our own strength.
    And a verse: “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you…” Isaiah 43:2 Notice it says “when” not “if”. ❤
    Oh, and I could be wrong, but I believe the oil is symbolic of the Holy Spirit.
    Great post! As always! 😊👍

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  3. Something told me to pause and read your post as I was scrolling by—I am so glad I did. This was exactly what I needed to read today. I’m just going to focus on pouring and not on what I lack.


  4. I’ve learned to live in His grace. I can’t do ANYTHING in my own strength and it’s sheer madness to try. As for those other questions: Your children and husband know you are amazing! That’s why they love being in your presence. Hugs, little sis!

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    1. 😂😂😂 Sometimes. When I’m not biting their heads off. You are correct though, I’m the one that’s following God, then when He stop walking, I stop right behind Him and wait for Him to move…looking at Him like, “You don’t move. I don’t move.” (This, of course, is when He’s not carrying me.)

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  5. Hey, thank you for your like on my blog. I’m honoured that you stopped by and took the time to read it. This is quite a cliché saying but I feel it’s fitting to you and this post I just read: “He gives us grace for the pace”. May His grace become more evident in your life and may others marvel at what you achieve through Him who strengthens you.

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  6. Love the way you write! I love all things in order. But I have noticed that God allows things in my life to be a little out of order, so I don’t forget that He is the One in charge. I always need Him. Your post reminds me of a verse that God keeps putting before me, “We are His creation, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared ahead of time so that we should walk in them” (Ephesians 2:10). Yes, we must give what we have, and do what God calls us to do. He produces the growth and He surely will since it was His plan in the first place. Thank you for your wonderful transparency and humor! 🙂 You make me smile!

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  7. I love this post! You are a beautiful writer. I often find when my own life is “out of whack” I try to blame God, but He has something so much greater planned for me. I applaud you for how hard you work, God has given each of us special roles, and you seem so grateful for yours. Blessings to you!

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  8. Relish the moments of order in your life. They may come in occasional seasons. Use them for rest. Then run as you must for the season of chaos. This too shall pass. Someday there will be more quiet. Then you must latch onto that and not ignore it, not let it pass without savoring it. God bless you on your wonderful, crazy journey.

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  9. Well done for 20 minutes time! WOW! Girl, you CAN write, so God has done that for you, as well. Be blessed because you’ve got a great Counselor on your side. Thanks for the lovely thoughts – I will take them to heart.

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  10. So very convicting! I always love your perspective on things, and I’m thankful you share the wisdom God has given you!

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  11. Great post as always Brit! And thank you so very much for the nomination! I truly appreciate it and I appreciate you for coming into my life through the power of writing! Lots of love! xoxo

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  12. Thank you for letting your heart be comforted by the Truth that everything we do needs to be fueled by grace. Like you, I also have a tendency to overload my schedule and then get overwhelmed and then . . . wonder why the world seems like such a dark and dreadful place. Thank you too, for sharing that picture of those 2 sweet, smiling faces!

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