When You Cannot See the Hair Growth

I've been afraid of posting a pic of my progress because I don't feel like my hair is growing and that makes me anxious but a lot of people asked for my hair progress. Looking at the pic, I don't feel anxious anymore because I can see the growth. #happykid

“I’ve been afraid of posting a pic of my progress because I don’t feel like my hair is growing and that makes me anxious but a lot of people asked me for my hair progress. Looking at the pic, I don’t feel that anxious anymore because I can see the growth.”


A little over a year into this natural hair journey, I am still up and down about how much I am really enjoying the ride.  I started following @curlywarrior_ on Instagram right after my big chop.  From afar, I have admired how her curls are growing, how she has embraced every bit of the journey.  Then there it was in plain black and white, she could not see her own growth.

I immediately sent her a message to ask if I could use her post in this blog piece.  She put my feelings into the perfect caption, and I began to wonder how many other girls think the same thing.  How many females out there have embarked on this journey to embrace their curls only to find the “I cut my hair and three months later look at my long, luxurious tresses” statement does not pertain to them? (*Raises Hand*)

The big chop does not always grow out as fast as we would like it to grow out, but it does grow.

This piece goes out to all the girls who cannot see the growth in their natural curls.

1.)  Keep learning.

So many women do all this research when you finally decide to go natural.  You talk to everyone you know who has natural hair.  You talk to everyone you see who has natural hair.  You go on YouTube.  You follow on Instagram, Facebook, and Pinterest, and then you stop.  You begin to second guess your decision.  You have one too many bad hair days where you want to crawl under a rock, but instead you have to show your face at work…Education is key.  Someone has posted a video about it or a photo about it.  Whatever ails you (currently maintaining my twist out for more than two days for me), someone has been there, done that, and has some useful information for you to use going forward.

2.)  Stop comparing.

One of my favorite vloggers is @brosiaaa on Instagram.  She just has this beautiful type 4 hair, brown skin, smile, and overall spirit.  In my mind, she just woke up one day, and decided to be a vlogger.  Then voila!  – 102k followers, tons of ads and sponsorships, and flawless hair and skin.  Only recently did I come across the reason I originally followed her.  It was this picture.

Bantu knots win!!!

It was the first time I had ever seen and loved someone’s TWA (teeny weeny afro).  Even when you think you know and understand how someone got to where they are, you do not.  You start at different places.  You are not the same person.  You are you, and that, in and of itself, is enough.

3.)  Find someone at the same point of the journey.

If you know anything about me, I am a HUGE proponent of finding a tribe.  Someone, somewhere is at the same point you are.  Someone has the same 4c, or 4b, or 3a hair.  Someone did a big chop they are second guessing.  Someone is transitioning.  Someone bought products they hate and are looking for replacements.  You need a curl friend.  Find one, and then be one.

4.)  Health is your friend.

Drinking water is your friend.  Exercise is your friend.  Healthy eating is your friend.  Vitamins are your friend.  The better your health habits.  The better your hair.

5.)  Find a protective style you love.

I LOVE LONG HAIR.  No matter how many compliments I get on my short styles, my level of conceit skyrockets the second I feel tresses down my back.  It just does.  Point blank period.  For the longest, I was against protective styles.  Much like my sentiments on the TWA I expressed earlier, I could not quite pinpoint any that I really liked…Then, I discovered that protective styles are more than just styles that use only your hair.  (I know.  I lack common sense sometimes.)  Faux locs – protective style.  Feed-in braids – protective style.  Sew-ins – protective style.  Therefore, by all means, when you need a little pick me up in the growth area, protect that style.

Braids are a great go-to for natural hair girls looking for a protective style with extra length.

6.)  Trust the process

Do not under any circumstances give up.  This is not to say that natural hair is the only way, but if you ever want to see growth, you have got to stick with something.  So many of us desire change.  We desire to see the end product.

In order to see the end product, WE HAVE TO GO THROUGH THE GROWTH PROCESS.  Establish your routine.  Learn.  Change up the routine.  Rest.  Learn.  Protect.  Learn. Change.  Learn.  Then, every once in a while, take a look back.  Maybe slowly, but surely, you will see that you and your hair are growing.

It is good at times to take a look back to see how much you've grown.

What do you do to make sure you can see that you are growing?

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Growth comes in phases. Your growth will not look like the growth of those around you. If you look closely, though, you will see that you too are growing.

27 thoughts on “When You Cannot See the Hair Growth

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  1. In some ways this post does not apply to me at all because my hair looks nothing like yours, but at the same time I feel encouraged because at the moment I can’t see my own growth in other areas, such as healthy eating and homemaking. Maybe there IS progress, but I’m too close to see it.

    Thank you!

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    1. I actually thought of so many analogies to so many areas of life when I wrote this post. I thought of tying in so many things. You are correct. Sometimes we are too close to see we really are changing into the person we really want to be (hopefully for the better).


  2. I use to think my hair wasn’t growing, now it’s past my chest. When I stopped twisting years ago it felt like my locs were just getting thicker and not longer. I’m glad that I waited patiently because now not only are my locs getting pretty long, but my roots are super thick since I just let them be. Just kick back and enjoy the stages. Stay blessed 🙏🏾✊🏾

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  3. Wait till you flat iron it! I’m amazed by my hair length when I straight it or stretch it out with the blow dryer. Also (and unrelated), I nominated you for a 3 quotes in 3 days challenge. Rules in my latest post. Hugs!

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  4. I love when you write about your hair! In the 1970s, a dear friend wore her long, black curls down to her waist! Her hair was incredible! She was (and is) gorgeous! Every picture of you here with all of these various hair lengths you are gorgeous! Glowing! Embracing the beauty that is you! Great post, Brittany!

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      1. Your curls are so pretty! And they’re growing! Maybe they’ll reach down to your waist one day. But hair growth and the fragility of our hair is really in God’s hands. He designed it with superb artistry. So many women I know are wearing their hair natural again, and I love it. Reading your posts informs your readers about the challenges of growing and caring for fragile curly hair. It’s absolutely beautiful!


  5. Fun post and you are so cute. I laugh when I look back at various seasons of hair styles in my life. For the most part, my hair has been long. But it has also been permed, huge (80’s), straight, shoulder length, really long but never waist length, in layers, and once cut around the ears and long in back, so a mullet basically. Oh my! 😉

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  6. Interesting. My hair is straight and I do not have curls, and now my issue is covering up my grey hairs. So I am in to tinting, and of course I am believe that we all have to be well groomed, so I do get it cut and styled as well regularly. All the best with growing your curls. Much Love and Light from me 🙂 ❤

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  7. What a great post! I love your story about your hair and the process of growth that you share. You are beautiful!

    My favorite statement in your post is “In order to see the end product, we have to go through the growth process.” This is so true about anything worth having. It’s not always easy to patiently grow, but in the end, we can look back and say, “glad I persevered.”


  8. Dear Brittany!

    It is fun to read about your hair journey because it’s a refreshing topic in the Christian blogging community. It’s also interesting to read about where you search for inspiration etc. One sentence stuck with me after reading, and that was: ‘Health is your friend’.

    God bless!
    Edna Davidsen

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  9. This is so true. One way I learned to be myself was to go natural because it doesn’t matter what type of hair you want…you’re gonna get what grows out of your head and you have to learn to accept it and not compare yourself to others.

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  10. First, you’re gorgeous and YOUR HAIR! I love it. LOVE it.

    Second, your encouragements in this post can be applied to so, so many areas of life.

    Thank you so much for sharing your journey so openly – you are a genuine encouragement to me.

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    1. This is so so sweet. Thank you so much for your kind words. They truly truly mean a lot to me. I feel like I am just a girl doing her best. My posts are more of a diary of encouragement to myself so to know that you too are encourage really speaks volumes. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

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  11. You have cool hair! I like how your blog is so positive and awesome and how you embrace your individuality. Don’t compare yourself to others because there is no need.
    Great blog post Brittany!

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