Momming 102 – Mommin’ Ain’t Easy

I didn’t ask you to be her. I asked you to be you. - God

“I didn’t ask you to be her.  I asked you to be you.” – God (Source)

Sometimes, we, as moms, feel like we are missing something.  We feel like there is a piece of a puzzle somewhere that every other mom received, but somehow we missed the memo, and now we are coming up a little short of our own expectations of motherhood.

The reality is that we missed nothing.  If we would just accept that “mommin’ ain’t easy” then life could go on as planned.  We would save ourselves headache.  We would save ourselves heartache.  We would save ourselves self-lectures and self-loathing because mommin’ was never meant to be easy.  No mom ever said that mommin’ was easy.  Mommin’ ain’t easy.

It does not look like Instagram, Pinterest, and Facebook feeds.  It does not look like perfect off guards.  It is not foil balloons on birthdays and babies sleeping on books and in baskets. Those are just the highlights. I read a blog today by a blogger named Zoe that makes sure that mom’s know to savor EVERY moment (EVEN the difficult ones)!  I read another one where a mom internalized what someone told her and let it eat away at her until she realized that sometimes a mom’s strength lies in letting go.

So today, choose to let go of the girl who has all the right answers, says all the right things, and is in all of the right places at all the right times.  Choose to stop looking at her and what she does and how she would approach this.  Choose to release the unrealistic expectations you have built for yourself.  Choose to ignore the girl inside who sometimes screams so loudly you cannot hear yourself think.  The biggest problem is not the her on your feed.  It is not the her with the huge following.  It is not the her without a hair out of place.  It is not the her who always finds the perfect lighting and backdrop.

The biggest problem is the her who stares back at you in the mirror.

God never asked you to be her.  He never asked you to be whoever it is you thought that life required for you to succeed…for you to “make it.”

The only her He ever asked you to be was already there before you ever looked in the mirror at her.

You do not need to be whatever “her” you have conjured in your mind.  God narrowed down His word to two requirements.  Love Him.  And love others as you love yourself.  No improvements necessary. (Matthew 22:39)


This is not to say that you cannot grow.  This is not to say that God is not calling you for more at times.  I am not speaking of His purpose for your life.

I am instead speaking of the expectations you got directly from her, whether the her is others…or the her is yourself.

You are a mom.  I am a mom, and mommin’ ain’t easy.  So if we could do ourselves a favor, and just be who we are.  That would be great.

“‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'”  (Jeremiah 29:11)


What are some things that you do to keep yourself from trying to be her?

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People do not always realize that they are messengers.  Chandra Lynn nominated me for this Quote Challenge not realizing that she was only asking me to do what God had already been asking me to do.  She added that I do not have to write every day.  I only have to post a quote and keep it moving, but that was never God’s parameters.  She was sent to me to deliver a message.  Message received.  Day 2.

Here are the rules:

  1. Thank the person who nominates you
  2. Post one quote per day for 3 consecutive days
  3. Nominate three new bloggers each day

I’d like to nominate the following bloggers.  Whether they accept or not, I believe each of them has an amazing format and people should definitely see it.

  1.  21flavorsofsplendor
  2.  SunSparkleShine
  3.  Your Morning Power


So often, we think that we are missing something when motherhood hands us more than we can handle. The truth, though, is that mommin' ain't easy. It is not now easy. It has never been easy. It will never be easy.

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37 thoughts on “Momming 102 – Mommin’ Ain’t Easy

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  1. I just finished the Proverbs 31 Online Bible Study of “Why Her?” by Nicki Koziarz. A great book and study reminding us that we all have unique gifts from God. Our gift is not her gift and her gift is not our gift. We can all glorify God in our own ways. Great post today. 🙂

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  2. They told us as teenagers while reading Shakespeare, “To thy own self be true”. It does take a lot of pressure off. Thanks for sharing, Brittany. Blessings to you.

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  3. That’s a neat challenge. Also, thanks for taking he encouragement- I know for sure mommying ain’t easy. Especially with three boys..but I know he’s got this under his control!

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  4. Beautiful! I love the way you point out that it can be our own thoughts and expectations that pressure us. But you’re so right here! We need to love God first, and in turn we will be exactly who He created us to be!

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  5. Comparison is something easily slipped into, however God made us not to compare but to know each and everyone of us is uniquely made and valuable! Thanks for sharing that message to mom’s here. So important even more so in our digital ‘comparison’ world.

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  6. What a beautiful reminder to be who God created me to be. I can remember being hired as a Children’s Minister at my previous church. The Pastor, the Graphic Artist and I went on a business trip to visit another church and their kid’s ministry. It was fabulous. Large. Amazing. We learned a bunch. But then I walked away feeling like I had to be that woman, our ministry had to be like theirs. Then God stopped me in my tracks and said, “I created you with your own unique passions, qualities, and I don’t want you or the ministry you lead to be anything more than what I made you and it to be. Learn from others, but always be true to who you are in Me.” Jesus gave me some great advice. Your post took me back to that day. Your truth applies to all roles we fill in life. Thank you!

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  7. Love, love, love this post! Mommin’ ain’t easy. And there is so much pressure to do it perfectly (whether from the world or from ourselves) that it becomes that much harder.

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  8. “So today, choose to let go of the girl who has all the right answers, says all the right things, is in all of the right places at all the right times.” Amen, Brittany. This post resonated with me and will with many mommas. Thanks!

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  9. I loved this, Brittany! It’s about time I give myself permission to be her — the one God created me to be, and let go of all the unrealistic expectations that come from comparing myself with others. I’m a work in progress, that’s for sure and I’m so grateful that God is patient with me.

    Thanks for the nomination by the way. I really appreciate your love and encouragement.

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  10. I’m not a mom, so not qualified to really comment here, but what you said about Facebook, Instagram, Pintrest…it’s all a facade, a big smoke and mirrors that makes things look so good and perfect but it is not that way. People still have problems. They get tired. They blow it with their kids, etc….

    At the end of the day, if the house and pictures do look like that perfect sense of balance, peace, contentment and joy, then the people inside probably don’t look like that. We will get that perfect sense one day, but that is not until we cross life’s river and move into the mansion Jesus Himself has prepared. Those places will make some truthful spiritual media pics!!! Until then, wipe the noses, do your best and go to bed exhausted! That’s really real!! 🙂

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  11. Yes being a mommy certainly isn’t easy. Babies do not come with guidance or a rules book. It is all about leaning through experience bringing them up from day one. I am now at the grand ma stage, so all that is past. Wishing you all the best, with bringing up your lot. Many Blessings of Love, Light and Healing Energies from me 🙂 ❤

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