Let me begin by acknowledging that I have nothing against relaxers or flat irons. I get it. I was there. Had you asked any of my friends 5 years ago who would be the last to “go natural,” you would have received a unanimous vote for me. I loved LONG straight weaves (with the top left out). If I was not rocking that, I rocked a pixie cut. It took me forever to even try out a curly weave. Curls were not for me. I did not have time to learn curls or curl patterns, and I doubted that my fro even had a pattern based on my experience with new growth.
Then I had a daughter. You would think that helping her learn her curls alone would convince me to accept my own. Yet, that was not the case. I was forced to join the natural hair movement. My hair refused to grow back post partum. It shed. It broke, and, just when I thought it was growing, it would shed and break again. So although I tried to say, “I did it for my daughter,” that could not have been further from the truth.
I did it for me. Now that I have done it for me, I fully understand the natural hair movement. I want everyone – white and black and every shade of brown between – to feel how freeing it is.
Still do not understand? Still do not quite agree? I know. I felt the same way. So here it is…here is why I find peace in my decision, and how perhaps you too can find peace in the middle of a hair revolution.
1. Your long hair options DO NOT CHANGE!
You can still wear your weaves, wigs, faux locs, and box braids. You can still have booty length hair. The hair market has changed significantly. The options available for “protective styles” are endless. If you want long hair tomorrow, you can have long hair tomorrow. If you want straight hair tomorrow, you can have straight hair tomorrow. Your celebrities, your influencers, and your style crushes, have all accepted the movement…The market has weaves for curly hair and weaves for bone straight hair. There are clip ins and braiding options for natural hair, blonde hair, purple hair, wavy hair and any other type of hair you can dream up.
2. There is a product perfect for your hair.
You just have to find it…the way you had to find the right product before you started wearing it natural. Every curl pattern has a product line. My personal favorite line for both my daughter and me is the Love of People.* And there are so many others. You can go to almost any grocery store, drug store, or super store and find option after option of products catered to you. Amazon offers tons of products that can be on your doorstep in days. You have access to exactly what you need to help your hair flourish!
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3. Someone is watching you.
There is a girl somewhere who needs to see people who look like you. There is a grown woman who needs to know it is not too late to make a fresh hair start. I did not understand until I “big chopped.” People would stop to compliment my hair. They would ask what products I used. They would ask me how I created whatever style I was wearing that day, and it had nothing to do with being a blogger or an influencer. My white, wavy haired, blond co-worker thanked me the day I posted my first natural hair video on Facebook. She sent me a text. She could not care less about ordinarilyextraordinarymom. She only knew Brittany – the math teacher who sponsored Fellowship of Christian Athletes with her.
Then there was a student in my Algebra 2 class who is biracial (black and white) with a mom who has straight blonde hair. When she found out I had a mixed little girl, it opened a floodgate of questions. At first I thought maybe she wanted to know my daughter’s hair routine and products, but she did not want those. She was not looking at my daughter in math class every day. She was looking at me. She wanted to know what Mrs. Bonnaffons uses.
My daughter needs someone to watch. I love her, and she is as beautiful as they come, but she does not look like me.
We just have the same hair – almost. My prayer for her is to look around and see others that remind her of herself, that she can question about hair regimens, that remind her that she is beautiful.
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The natural hair movement is more than hair. It is self-acceptance. It is self-awareness, and it is self love.
If you embrace the movement for nothing else, I give you my number one reason in a nutshell…do it for you.
Will you wake up every day and love it? No. Will the transition be easy? No. Will you always ooze self-confidence and high self-esteem? No.
Yet, I can promise you, looking in the mirror and accepting the beautiful woman that stares back at you is priceless. Nothing feels better than rocking the natural tresses God gave you – with or without a movement.
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How do you wear your hair? What are your thoughts on the natural hair movement?
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I have been a naturalista for around 10 years. I did it for me. My medication was thinning my hair. Now my daughters and my sister are natural.
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That’s so wonderful. It’s crazy the reasons we all have for joining, but I love that we find ways to spread to generations after us ❤️
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I love my natural hair and the journey I’ve been on with my natural curls.
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I totally agree Brittany. In fact, I credit going natural as one of the ways I learned to be and accept myself for me. It’s the one thing that’s unique to me. I leave the house every day knowing that no one else’s hair is like mine…the curl pattern may be, but kind of like our personalities, hair is our own.
Thanks for writing about this ❤
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I am learning more and more about this as I go. I never knew how liberated I would feel until after I had done it. It definitely adds a new dimension to who I am.
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Great post. Being part of the natural hair movement has been liberating for me and no matter how much work it can sometime be and it’s lack of cooperation at times I wouldn’t have it any other way. 😀
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I so understand. I would not either, and I did not immediately jump on the bus. I was thrown on it more like it. 😂 I am now ecstatic to be a part of it ❤️
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I’ve been wearing my hair natural since I was born! I tried relaxer twice (different stages of my life) and I HATED it. 🙊 I just never knew what to do with it. I preferred being bald. 😄
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I have always admired those who never got relaxers in a relaxer crazed world. I was quite the opposite. You could find me in a salon every two weeks faithfully! Natural hair was a lifestyle change for me.
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I can imagine. Haha every two weeks?! 😅 1-2 weeks is how long I am able to keep braids for. I am happy you joined the movement. I am yet to have a weave. I think I am finally ready to experiment (that’s how bad I am with straight hair).
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And I literally cracked up when you said you’d prefer being bald.😂
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Whoop whoop love it!!! I’m all about natural these days! I need to do a new follow up post about my 36 year old self with all my growing out grays🙂
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Natural is such a huge shift in mentality. There is literally no way for me to explain the freedom it offers.
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Thanks for sharing these important reminders, Brittany! I don’t have all the issues that women of color do with their hair, but I’ve learned to love my curly locks over the years. I used to try and straighten it when it was all the rage to have super straight hair, but now I just want to embrace who I am! Pinning, my friend!
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I love seeing women of all colors and all curl patterns rock their natural hair. My husband has tons of women in his family with naturally curly hair but they wear it straight all the time. It’s so helpful for my daughter to see ALL ethnicities rocking curly hair. 💕
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I didn’t really realize that natural hair was a trend; I’m so not trendy. But I’ve been going full-on natural for the past probably 6 years. Like you said, it’s great for self-acceptance, and it’s great for accepting the way God made me. Accepting that He knew what He was doing.
I love your pics, by the way. You and your daughter are beautiful!
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I agree with you one hundred percent. Going natural is not about the hair it is about accepting yourself as who God created you to be. I came to this realization about 30yrs ago when natural hair was not the “in thing.” My friends laughed and rediculed and I stuck to my decision. Now almost everyone including the friends who use to laugh are going natural. Thanks for this post. I saved it.
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ALL for it! And your daughter’s hair is adorable, btw!
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Thank you for sharing this…
I have gone through the most with my hair due to rare health challenges. I look at every strand as an ancestor now. It’s a self bonding experience I never thought I could have. Though I have a long way to go with management and finding the best natural products for my hair I am forever thankful for the Journey.
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I am always looking to do better. I’ve found some great products, but I’m always looking for styles that I like AND that work great for keeping a healthy head of hair.
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Please share the affordable products with me!!
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I need to know.
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You know I will beautiful ❤️
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I’ve been natural for over 10 years and my journey was a long one of self-love and acceptance. We get enough from society telling us we’re not beautiful but I also got it from my own family when I went natural. I had to discover that “the way man sees is not the way God sees” (1 Samuel 16:7). We all are beautifully made and I have never regretted going natural. My hair is thicker and longer than it’s ever been and I feel so blessed to be able to encourage and help other women and girls on their own hair journey. Great post! Thanks for sharing your story.
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So glad I joined the natural hair movement. I decided to go natural about 3 years ago, and I haven’t looked back. Now I’m wondering what took me so long. My daughter and granddaughter wear their hair natural too. Thanks for the encouragement.
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My daughter has been natural her whole life. This way she will not know any different. She will embrace who she is from the beginning. It’s a process for me. Some days I love it. Other days, I can leave it. Yet, it is a part of who I am from now until forever. Glad you are a part of the movement!
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